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  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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Comentários • 74 746

  • Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell
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    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás

      Thank you 🥰🥰🥰

    • Iran Terres
      Iran Terres 19 dias atrás

      A very good albeit very naive video.

    • Ramdhan Putrasetya
      Ramdhan Putrasetya Mês atrás

      Yu

    • D3po
      D3po Mês atrás

      i came here for a backround video while i work only to have my last 10 years read out like a book

    • Antisin
      Antisin Mês atrás

      Жизнь невыносима

  • فرید حیدری
    فرید حیدری 3 anos atrás +38820

    The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody
    and you end up talking to yourself

    • Charlie Marty
      Charlie Marty 22 dias atrás

      Or that something exciting has happened to you and you have no one to tell

    • just a guy
      just a guy 2 meses atrás

      :((((

    • Sean McSwiggan
      Sean McSwiggan 2 meses atrás

      Especially when I wish I could share it with a particular person.

    • William
      William 2 meses atrás

      True

    • Syed Jazib Hassan
      Syed Jazib Hassan 3 meses atrás

      Are you stalking me bro

  • Vyncius
    Vyncius 4 meses atrás +1596

    loneliness is killing me, everything in this video makes sense about my experience. I want to get better, but it's so hard.

    • Theluminous One
      Theluminous One 3 dias atrás

      @ERROR! Agreed.
      Its hard to make someone walk a mile when the last 100 miles they walked were nothing but debilitating.

    • cavecave cavecave
      cavecave cavecave 11 dias atrás

      I went through the same thought process as you. Don't treat loneliness as an illness. It's not. I started to turn loneliness on its head. I found I could do anything I wanted, whenever I wanted. I hung out at a few cafés and the odd bar, and found I could strike up a conversation with almost anyone. I went snorkeling on my own recently. Had a great time, and as the sun started to dip, as I drove home, a song called spooky, sung by Dusty Springfield, came on the radio. It was soooo chilled, and made me think that we don't actually NEED anyone. Sure, it's nice to have people around. But just as nice to be able to relax, and leave all their baggage behind. Love who you are, and others will love you. Hope this helped. Even if only a little x

    • Oreo Coco Bella Vlogs
      Oreo Coco Bella Vlogs 17 dias atrás

      @Emily . k I’m sad to know that. Stay strong, find things that make you happy n Chuck out the people who put you down n lower your spirits.

    • Emily . k
      Emily . k 17 dias atrás +1

      I have had friends who bullied me, stole from me, and even attacked me because I was a different religion to them. - The result I have chosen solitude, and I am as lonely as hell. - But there's no way I would ever want to have friends again. I just can no longer cope with being a crime victim.

  • will u?
    will u? 28 dias atrás +154

    This video made me cry. The topic is way more deep, toxic to us and unhealthy than I initially thought, I underestimated it heavily. This video really made me think, "Am I lonely?" I love Kurzgesagt's videos 💓

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás

      Me too. I think Loneliness is a huge problem in our history

    • Jbean
      Jbean 23 dias atrás +4

      I am in 11th grade currently. I have had to shift homes every year since 7th grade. This video really called me out on my behaviour. I feel invisible at class because everyone has already established their friend groups and such, and when a group wants to let me in, i feel REALLY hesitant to open up about myself by instinct.
      Changing schools so fast has made me feel isolated from everyone and everything and i hope it improves. Not to mention that i have had to start school late every single grade, the burden of studies got to me in my current grade and i have mentally broken down and given up. I can't take it anymore.

  • TW Shoku
    TW Shoku 3 meses atrás +698

    My brother passed away from suicide in August 2021. And he has this video in his likes playlists. I wish I could have helped him. I still can’t believe he’s gone.

    • Jose Eduardo Nogueira
      Jose Eduardo Nogueira Dia atrás

      May he Rest In Peace

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás

      I am so sad to hear that 😥😥😥

    • GhostCatFromHell
      GhostCatFromHell 11 dias atrás +1

      you probably could have helped him, because most people can tell when someone is lonely but they don't do anything to include that person in their lives or to make them less lonely... so next time you notice that someone is lonely, try to help them somehow

    • Rinske Verberg
      Rinske Verberg 14 dias atrás

      I'm so so sorry for your loss. It must be incredibly hard to be the one left behind, wondering what you could have done. And there probably isn't anything - sometimes it's just impossible to influence another person's feelings, no matter how hard we try (speaking from experience). I hope you find a little peace with this.

    • NxNettiks
      NxNettiks 16 dias atrás

      L

  • Garrett Watts
    Garrett Watts 2 meses atrás +598

    Three years later and this remains one of the most helpful, important, beautiful videos I have ever seen in my life. I am not exaggerating when I say that this is my favorite video uploaded to BRclip and that I have sent it to easily 100+ people throughput the years. Thank y’all so much for this video.

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás +1

      I totally agree with you. I love Kurzgesagt videos. Especially " Loneliness" and "Dissatisfaction "

    • Bruce Tennyson
      Bruce Tennyson 12 dias atrás

      Watch “The Egg”

    • juaquin XD
      juaquin XD Mês atrás

      Ñ

    • Venancio Caceres
      Venancio Caceres Mês atrás +1

      So fricking same, I send this video to people I care about whenever I see the chance, which often presents itself. This video and channel is so awesome

    • Kevin Duliesco
      Kevin Duliesco Mês atrás

      @Lemmy Hiddit yes you don't because you don't touch grass

  • ZENO
    ZENO 2 anos atrás +31555

    The worst thing is being around people and feeling like you are invisible

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás

      You are right. I was feeling same in my high school. Right now, I still feel myself like this

    • Jamal
      Jamal 12 dias atrás

      Fuck that feeling

    • 4kays
      4kays 17 dias atrás

      Being noticed by the group is the greatest horror in my mind..

    • Fat Cat
      Fat Cat 18 dias atrás

      @All Echos yes it is it's kind of good

    • All Echos
      All Echos 19 dias atrás

      @Fat Cat no it’s not it’s kind of bad

  • Sorin Jayaweera
    Sorin Jayaweera 23 dias atrás +56

    Walking in groups but not mattering, being stuck at the side and not having any change on the conversation. Being ignored or skipped over, interrupted and forgotten. It sucks. People dont deserve how awesome we are. We are all in it together, and we can all get through it.

    • Lime Luma
      Lime Luma 3 dias atrás

      @Deutsch mit Purple I’ll get through it I just need to put myself out there more

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás +1

      @Lime LumaYou are not alone. I was living this situation in my higschool and my university

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás

      True 👍❤️👍❤️

    • Lime Luma
      Lime Luma 16 dias atrás +8

      i am going through this exact thing rn. my friends act like they care about me but i feel so ignored. plans always get canceled while they are always doing something without me. i dont understand cause when ever i see them they act like they treat me like a best friend but no one puts in the effort to talk to me. Making friends is so hard i dont understand how people have them.

  • J L
    J L 3 meses atrás +543

    I was born a very introverted and socially awkward kid, I remember I was always different from everyone else, I had friends, some really good friends, but I knew there was something wrong with me.
    When I got to my teens years, that difference became bigger, I realized that I didn't know how to socialize like the other people, I couldn't mantain eye contact, I didn't feel comfortable talking about feelings or subjective stuff, i preferred to speak about a certain topic like geography or biology, that none of my mates understood. I got along with the weird kids group at least, we would always be together on the breaks and sometimes go out cycling or walking together. When I got to my 10 the grade, I had to say goodbye to all of them, since they all picked professional courses while I picked a scientific one. I had to make friends in a place where I basically knew no one. After 3-4 months, I managed to starting to get along with 2 guys, and later I actually started to speak with all of them during breaks, but there was still something wrong. I realized I was still different, I didn't like to speak about girls or trends like them, my only way of socializing was either trough speaking about school stuff or playing sports or cards games with them, where we all had the same objective.
    I got to 11th grade, and I decided it was time to test myself. We would be having a Erasmus project and I registered myself in. Of course, since it was based on grades, I was able to go with 5 of my classmates. That was probably one of the best/worst weeks of my life.
    During the trip, I realized that I was indeed different once again from my classmates, they would all like to hug and take photos, while all I wanted was to be alone, look at the nature from the bus window and just rest there, without saying a word. It was still a fun week, where we laughed a lot, but it was the time I realized how alone I was. And it was not my fault, I tried everything to get close friendships, but I just didn't feel comfortable talking about deep stuff with anyone, not even my parents. I got depressed and soon developed social phobia. It's been six months since the trip, I can't say I don't have friends, but I do not have any close relationship with anyone, because I can't connect with anyone, I feel like a different species from everyone else. I've been trying to study this stuff, and that is how I found out I was probably an Aspie (Autism spectrum disease). It was that moment where I realized so much about this part of my life and yet, since my country almost has no one with autism, I still feel alone and alienated, waiting someday to find someone that I can truly connect with.

    • J L
      J L 9 dias atrás

      For all the people that feel alone too why don't we create a group to speak and listen to each other?

    • MusicAndy
      MusicAndy 10 dias atrás

      When I was reading your story, it really seemed like my story

    • LemonSquicy
      LemonSquicy 19 dias atrás

      i can relate to your story

    • Ranguy 1379
      Ranguy 1379 19 dias atrás

      So relatable! Lack of the ability to connect with others, exactly my problem. I'm interested in science stuff like you, so my idea is to research the shit out of what human connection is and treat this like a puzzle to solve. I don't know if this is the best way to deal with this, but here I go

    • Ali Imran
      Ali Imran 21 dia atrás

      i also same like you, but now i dont care about social.. because i tired to motivated my self to feel better..

  • CreamtheRabbit98
    CreamtheRabbit98 19 dias atrás +32

    I cried during this video. I've always felt this way since I was 18. Even when I was surrounded by my online friends, I still felt like I was invisible or alone. Or I felt like I couldn't talk about anything. Especially tonight because I was hanging out with friends and I felt like I was ignored or they could care less about what I was saying. Idk if that's even true. They are most likely just busy with their own lives. But there are some days like today that make me feel like the whole world is against me. I feel like no one really cares about me. Not even my own parents. I feel like no one is listening to me. I'm just better never talking to anyone ever again.

    • shooting smilla 123
      shooting smilla 123 3 dias atrás

      @Sizo I sadly relate to you.

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás +1

      You are not alone, my friend. I am living same

    • Sizo
      Sizo 4 dias atrás +1

      I cried while reading this because I can feel your pain so much. I’m 15 and I know that some of you guys will think that I’m too young or I don’t understand and I’m just following the whatever the media says, but to be honest I can feel the pain of not being able to speak to anyone and feeling isolated from others. When you’re crying/doing something fun and have so much to say about it, it hurts to realize that you have nobody that you’re comfortable with to talk too. When you do want to contact/ text/talk to someone, you always have those thoughts and beliefs in your head that tell you “nobody cares what you have to say or give a shit about you. So just stfu.” Or “if you say something they’ll think you’re weird/crazy and won’t like you anymore.” Or even “you’re wasting their time…” It really restricts you from talking to others and telling what you have to say. I’d go more in depth but it’ll be too long. (Thanks to whoever took the time to read this)

    • pinkroses
      pinkroses 8 dias atrás +2

      @jerry dude cmon

    • wow
      wow 14 dias atrás +2

      @jerry Jesus

  • AinTech
    AinTech Mês atrás +93

    I watched my mother go from having a well paying job, a husband, and being fit. To having a disability where she can’t work, started gaining weight, and her husband left her. Yet I have no clue how she isn’t depressed.

    • Alōkō
      Alōkō  6 dias atrás +1

      @AinTech good question...well for example...asking her how she does it may give her the opportunity to share how she looks at life dealing with them challenges and how she deals with thoughts and feelings, and that in return can inspire your mind and that of others around you.
      And secondly...maybe she feels depressed at times and you may not have picked up on it....and by you having a open conversation it may give her that space to share if she wants, which can be very valuable for her who has gone through all that you mentioned.
      But if you're not comfortable with it that's your good right too 🌸
      Either way your mom sounds like a rock!

    • AinTech
      AinTech 7 dias atrás

      @Alōkō why would I ask her that? It’s kinda personal and I think we both would feel uncomfortable talking about it.

    • Alōkō
      Alōkō  7 dias atrás

      Oh what did your mom say when you ask her that question? Id love to hear how she keeps from falling in a depression

    • Emperor Dragon
      Emperor Dragon 17 dias atrás +2

      some people get stronger the more hardship their life throws at them. but we shouldn't mistake it as their strength. it could be a ticking time bomb just waiting to implode in itself. and then you realise how broken someone can be and still have the brightest smile.

    • Aphill
      Aphill 20 dias atrás +1

      Some !pp are great at masking depression

  • Dragoș Micu
    Dragoș Micu 2 anos atrás +24940

    "I think my biggest problem is that I love being alone but I hate being lonely."

  • Ameji Ikoojo
    Ameji Ikoojo 2 meses atrás +61

    I remember watching this video last year and almost cried after watching because i was lonely, had developed social anxiety and also had severe problems reaching out to people. I started going out more, paid more attention to my siblings, became more vulnerable with a female friend I fancy and I just rewatched this and realized i no longer think people have negative intentions towards me. Infact, I became more positive and try to help others more. Thank you kurzgesagt. This video saved me.

  • Chonokhan
    Chonokhan 3 meses atrás +415

    My Grandfather once told me: There are 3 types of people: The Tiger wanders alone, because everyone else perceives him as dangerous and intimidating, the Wolf, who cares only about family and close friends and the Sheep, who follows anyone and everyone, as long as he gets to be part of the herd.

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás

      Thank you for sharing

    • Popai
      Popai 24 dias atrás

      I'm Something of a Wolfiger then haha. It's lonely, but fullfilling

    • Morgan Jary
      Morgan Jary 24 dias atrás +2

      i want to be at least a sheep.

    • sunaweee
      sunaweee Mês atrás +6

      I think I'm a tiger since I just move around alone and no one talks to me but idk if they are intimidated by me I seem like a nice person....also I'm not that close friends/family oriented nor do I follow the herd....

    • S Pall
      S Pall Mês atrás +1

      this is a really cool analogy for me because i had this profile picture of a wolf before i read this but it meant the same thing as what you have described a wolf to be, i have always been a family/close friends kinda guy

  • Jennie22.0
    Jennie22.0 4 meses atrás +114

    "if you feel lonely, you are lonely" hits / such simple validation because lonliness is something we and others can really try to deny

  • Shoon
    Shoon Mês atrás +11

    I swear it’s not a coincidence that this video pops up right as I start to question why I’m feeling different recently, and the fact that I believe loneliness is most likely what it is, has got to mean something.

  • jack mac
    jack mac 3 anos atrás +23602

    "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Robin Williams

    • bysscanna
      bysscanna 14 dias atrás

      he was so right

    • Popai
      Popai 24 dias atrás

      That was the one that scratched the match and lit this fire. Lonely fire

    • Jay Paint
      Jay Paint 25 dias atrás

      I read it in his voice too

    • William Larkin
      William Larkin 27 dias atrás

      You hit that right on the nail.

    • ilyaS
      ilyaS 3 meses atrás

      Bro felt so cool while saying that

  • Tazer
    Tazer 2 meses atrás +44

    It's been 3 years since this was uploaded and this video still stands as one of the most helpful and important videos on BRclip as a whole, easy to digest with an amazing message. Thank you Kurzgesagt for all the uploads.

    • UNCLE’S_ NEPHEW
      UNCLE’S_ NEPHEW Mês atrás

      Yes This and “The School Of Life” taught me a lot during the pandemic

  • Geiermeier
    Geiermeier 2 meses atrás +20

    it is worst when you realise you are so miserable that when somone treats you like a human and shows some interest you instantly fell in love with them..

    • Aphill
      Aphill 20 dias atrás +3

      Wow! So sad but also so true!

    • United Airlines66
      United Airlines66 Mês atrás +1

      You got this bro you can talk to me if you need to ❤️

  • Tiny Tim
    Tiny Tim 3 meses atrás +14

    I’ve lived by a saying that “loneliness is better than pain” for some time now. It was definitely true for me when I was younger than I am now. However, as of late, I’ve been questioning whether I should still keep living by it after noticing how often I felt lonely now that school is over. Adding in that scientific explanation about our biological need for connection was eye-opening because I have became so apathetic as a result of loneliness that the only way to convince me about anything was logic or reason. That was the convincing that I needed to get me out of that mindset. Thank you!

  • Nordic Dreki
    Nordic Dreki 3 meses atrás +31

    This is very true for myself. I often thought that perhaps being introverted and not enjoying the stress of large groups of people was part of my personality, but once I actually got out into the world and was forced to adapt to new situations, I found that many of the things I worried about were not such a huge deal after all. Being saturated in overthinking can cause terrible thoughts to occur due to us trying to protect ourselves. This is especially true for me in the form of OCD, a mental disorder that causes varying levels of fear-related obsessions. The fears and lingering thoughts are like a downpour of rain that only briefly is satiated when you complete a set of what I like to call "rituals". These acts are different for everyone with OCD, but an example would be opening door handles with gloves, or perhaps washing your hands a certain number of times. Whatever the case, OCD attacks you with a sense of dread, making you feel as if something terrible will happen if you do not complete the ritual.
    what this means for me is that I have trouble functioning like a normal human being without encountering mental hurdles to allow me to proceed through life. Imagine you're on a looping track and need to run as fast as you can, but you run into a hurdle that looks like something or someone you care about. Naturally, you don't want to run into this hurdle... so, thinking you are protecting yourself and your family, you avoid the hurdle completely instead of running through it. This causing you to fall behind in life, and maybe even cripple your progress entirely. Interestingly, the brain feels happier after completing rituals, but these respites become shorter with each time you complete a ritual, as your brain begins to demand more feelings of relief. It's sort of like that adrenaline rush you get when riding a roller coaster... you know, that intense feeling where you FEEL like you are going to die, but you know you are safe at the same time. Then when you get off the roller coaster, you feel good about having that rush of fearful adrenaline. With OCD, you have a similar addiction, but it applies to many things in life. OCD cannot be cured, but can be reduced by ignoring the fearful compulsions that plague you... but it's an uphill battle for me. Some cases are mild, while others are much more severe. I fall within the moderate category though, but it's still difficult to live with.
    Overall though, it's easy to give into awful thoughts when you feel like you are only trying to protect yourself and those around you. When in reality, you're only hurting yourself and creating a cycle of self-torture that will be constantly re-affirmed by your own mind unless you begin to question and defy it. My hope for everyone is that they stand up to their own mind and begin to think critically.

  • Gustxs
    Gustxs 9 meses atrás +3543

    You never realise how lonely you are until it’s the end of the day and you have a bunch of stuff to talk about but no one to tell it to :(

    • Deutsch mit Purple
      Deutsch mit Purple 3 dias atrás

      Great message . I have really loved it

    • bill pitz
      bill pitz 5 dias atrás

      @BrolyTheLegend sad😢

    • Ansoor
      Ansoor 2 meses atrás

      @BrolyTheLegend oh man! Sorry for you. Don't lose the hope. You'll overcome this. God bless.

    • BrolyTheLegend
      BrolyTheLegend 2 meses atrás

      @Ansoor I am in that situation you desrcibed right now
      Im slowly dying from cancer and there's no one to help me

    • Ansoor
      Ansoor 3 meses atrás

      For the person who took this hard lone path should face it. Things to remember always, extroverts are not always happy they show but don't, you come alone so leave alone, never let your future occupy you for more than 10 minutes a day..yes that 10 mins for planning other than that every thought is fatal for eg: Just thinking that you are going to be alone till you die and don't have anyone to appreciate your presence is more than enough to kill you in months both mentally and physically. So the path is damn damn hard but its worth it.

  • sen or
    sen or 3 meses atrás +12

    I watched this the day it was released, and 3 years later it's still helping me push through tough times. Thank you Kurzgesagt, for the many times your videos have saved me

  • IK IK
    IK IK Mês atrás +7

    Thank you so much for this video. I am suffering from impending loneliness because although my social situation is awesome right now, I’m moving to a totally new country in 3 days and I’m worried that I’ll be lonely there. Im gonna make a plan for myself based on the principles in this video + I’m a public policy student so I’d love to design “something” or some system that will help citizens get connected one day, as a public service

  • typos
    typos 24 dias atrás +7

    I was born a very happy and social person, but as time went on, I became more and more lonely, interacting with fewer people, due to my circumstances. It can hurt.

  • Liam De Paux
    Liam De Paux 4 meses atrás +13

    I've never been able to fully understand what my friends are going through with loneliness since i don't really feel this way a lot. This video did a wonderful job of explaining and now i want to give them a hug

  • poojaAch
    poojaAch 2 anos atrás +7859

    The worst is..when u spend time with ur "friends" and feel like u don't belong there anymore. Such a contradicting feeling that is.

    • Jay Paint
      Jay Paint 24 dias atrás

      Yeah

    • Some Tag Guy
      Some Tag Guy 2 meses atrás

      @Daménwave 8513 everything _else_ still exists tho

    • Onddu22
      Onddu22 2 meses atrás +1

      yeah being the 3rd or even the 6th wheel isn't too fun. 3 hours of awkwardly listening to friends talking about stuff, and don't know what to say.

    • BrolyTheLegend
      BrolyTheLegend 2 meses atrás

      @abcdefglol same

  • Qyoon
    Qyoon 18 horas atrás +1

    Thank you so much for posting a very useful, helpful, and informative video!
    I've been fighting my loneliness for a long time,
    but I think this video can help me recognize my loneliness objectively and get out of it💪

  • Hiyeena
    Hiyeena 3 meses atrás +34

    “If you feel lonely, you are lonely”
    That hits hard.

  • Glenn Funderburk
    Glenn Funderburk Mês atrás +4

    This really helped me understand my loneliness. I’m working on Improving both my mental and social health using this advice as a guide. Thanks guys!

  • Sinan
    Sinan 3 meses atrás +23

    I've been feeling very lonely since my father passed away. My mom doesn't call. I write to my cousins ​​but none of them care about me. When I just started college, I was enthusiastic. I made an effort to meet people. I tried hard to get a girlfriend. they all went to someone else. I am so alone; sometimes I especially follow my phone, "it will definitely not ring even once today." and it really does happen, no message other than the one from the bank. I actually became a very extroverted person after my father died. I looked for love and attention outside. I always went and talked to all my friends. In fact, I have a group of 5 friends in my class and I met and introduced them to all of them individually. but they don't call me. If I write, we talk, we meet, but that's it. As a loner, I also study social society. Loneliness gave me high empathy. Now I know that everyone is alone. No one is absolutely happy. Everything on social media is fake. I know now. Now my expectation from life is a fit body, a successful career. I am 20 years old. but I feel like it's too late for everything. Then I say to myself, everything happens at once. Someday I meet someone somewhere and everything will be perfect after that. I'm waiting for that day and I'm self-sufficient. I am improving myself. I am having fun with myself. It is very easy to have fun in a Mediterranean country anyway. The thing that upset me was that I couldn't meet a person I loved so much when I could do these things. I went to the beach by myself 100 times. If I had gone with a girl I loved 100 times, my life would be different right now. I was taking extra good care of myself when I had someone in my life before. Now I've taught myself to do this when I'm alone. I also take care of myself when I am alone and I love myself. Because remember, there is not one more of you in the world and there will never be. We are all original people and we are all valuable. Greetings from İzmir, Turkey, friends. take very good care of yourself.

    • Hernan R Sanchez
      Hernan R Sanchez Mês atrás

      Gay

    • Mowdown
      Mowdown 2 meses atrás

      Iiiizmir, a very beautiful city

    • FakedZarcasm
      FakedZarcasm 3 meses atrás +2

      Thank you for sharing your story! Honestly I feel quite the same. I'm 18 and school finished about a week and a half ago and I'm starting to feel lonely. Just today I was strolling through Instagram and see stories with my friends having fun with others and I dont get invited. I dont really "hang out" with many of my friends and usually talked to them because of school. Hope this gets better for the both of us !

  • axkira
    axkira 3 anos atrás +18008

    Conversations that I have:
    4% with real people
    96% in my mind

  • FM
    FM Mês atrás +19

    I hope you find happiness, peace and comfort, whether that be in yourself or in someone else. You did great today❤❤

  • Ali Seyar
    Ali Seyar 3 meses atrás +6

    You did a crucial thing for people who suffered from chronical loneliness. What a video, what an useful thing. I want to thank you guys, sincerely.

  • DreamBuilder
    DreamBuilder 2 meses atrás +7

    Hey I just want to say thank you for putting this video out. I haven't felt lonely in years because it was normalized when I was a child, and this really helped me realize a few things. What they are, I don't know, but they're definitely there

  • Reen M
    Reen M Mês atrás +3

    I’m not alone most of the time but I study away from my hometown and I feel this most of the time. It quite sucks and it’s too f***ing sad to see how many people feels like this all the time here. I respect your strength to endure this. Keep fighting! We all gon make it.

  • karstdeviz
    karstdeviz 3 anos atrás +16278

    Here's a tip: If you watch a horror movie at night alone, I guarantee you won't feel lonely anymore.

    • RoBlox94#2
      RoBlox94#2 Mês atrás

      Yeah it’s a good tactic but the only problem is I won’t feel lonely anymore because I’ll think there’s a serial killer in my bathroom

    • MERONEY R.M
      MERONEY R.M Mês atrás

      Dark komedia

    • Akshay Sawant
      Akshay Sawant Mês atrás

      Daam true 😂

    • Bagazwi
      Bagazwi Mês atrás

      u j stopped me from crying, thanks tho

    • DaLizardGirl !
      DaLizardGirl ! 3 meses atrás +1

      HAHHAAHHAHA

  • ChibiPuppy
    ChibiPuppy Mês atrás +10

    “You can’t reject calls you never get and invitations you never received”
    -Sun Tsu, The art of Relations

  • Krono Sphere
    Krono Sphere Mês atrás +2

    I have never given much thoughts about loneliness before. In fact I thought I was completely fine and happy with just being alone. But after watching half of the video it hit me and I started tearing. I guess deep down I really do yearn to connect and I was suppressing it so much to the point that I don't feel the need to anymore.

  • phibs
    phibs Mês atrás +6

    This year is my fourth year of university in a town completely separated from all of my best friends. It's always been hard, seeing them live out their lives together without me but I've somehow managed. We were all recently back in our hometown together and I think being back with them was such a high that ever since I've been back I've felt completely alone despite attempts to keep myself busy and socialise with other people in my university town. The past couple of weeks have hit really hard. I really just want to be around them. We wouldn't even have to talk. I just want to sit with them. Hug them. I'm finding it really hard to talk to them online because recently most of the time I'm on a call with them I have to mute myself so they don't know I'm crying (I'm literally muted in a call with one of them while sobbing and writing this). They don't know how I feel, and I've been meaning to talk to some of them about it for a while now but it's just. hard. I don't want to drag them down with my sob story. They deserve to live their lives without feeling guilty about me living in a town that I chose to live in. Anyways, yeah. Thank you random comment reader for listening. Know you're not alone.
    UPDATE: After ten more minutes of sobbing, I decided to reach out to a friend. It helped. I know my problem isn't gone. There are still tears coming out of my eyes, but I'm not sobbing, I'm not shaking. It was a step in the right direction. Thanks Kurzgesagt.

    • Francesca Ciabattini
      Francesca Ciabattini Mês atrás +1

      teared up reading your comment, I relate very much.. sending love your way ❤️

  • shiddyusername
    shiddyusername 2 meses atrás +6

    Hmm, I was watching this video when I first realized I am quite lonely (a couple of years ago). After that I have been thinking, observing and making some progress with this situation, and now watching this video again, I see that many things in this video are exactly what I have also realized myself. This video helps a lot :)

  • Aditya Raj
    Aditya Raj Anos atrás +2286

    "Loneliness makes you decline invitations till invitations stops"
    TOTALLY AGREE..

    • Mitch
      Mitch Anos atrás +2

      you have to put yourself in the shoes of the person who invites you. 1 time, two, three, four .. on the fifth I got bored but I ask you again. then that's enough. we can't spend our lives chasing people who want to be alone or think they want to be alone.

    • Crasaiden
      Crasaiden Anos atrás

      Yeah this hit hard. Because its true.

    • Swiftie
      Swiftie Anos atrás

      @DidThink sad 😥

    • Aaron Tabong
      Aaron Tabong Anos atrás

      True

    • DidThink
      DidThink Anos atrás +1

      i never got invitations

  • anika nura
    anika nura 23 dias atrás +5

    Thanks to all the people to make this video, I'm from Bangladesh and even though we Don't know each other still your work has hepled me to feel positive about my situation & I'm going to take your advice. Thanks again❤️❤️

  • sugo
    sugo 19 dias atrás +1

    From my experience one gets used to being alone to the point where being alone does not make you lonely. Live alone for year and find things you enjoy doing alone (like learning and going to the gym etc). Its all a mindset, if your alone it doesn't mean you will feel lonely for long.

  • The dark Shadow
    The dark Shadow 3 meses atrás +4

    Thanks for making this video.
    Now i know exactly what i feel.
    I used to think that what i feel is depression on a very low level because i didnt actually ever want to end my life and i dont even cry while feeling what i feel. It all made sense when you said that this can be the start of depression and isn't actually depression itself. And i did notice from like an year that im purposely trying to think that people only try to hurt me or make fun of me.

  • m
    m 2 meses atrás +19

    These days I feel lonely because I started a new life in a new city. There a few friends and I have to adapt to my new life, so I become always nervous. and because of this, I made a lot of mistakes this week. By setting this video, I feel a little relaxed and I’ll try to connect others more!

    • Erik Kramer
      Erik Kramer Mês atrás +1

      Hey i also moved to a new city recently and I feel the same way! I hope thing get better for u as u get time to settle in. Virtual hug

  • T_T __
    T_T __ Anos atrás +4563

    The most connected era in the history and yet the most lonely one too.

    • Pootis
      Pootis 4 meses atrás

      I feel like a problem is that people just can't care about that.

    • The Grey Ghost
      The Grey Ghost 4 meses atrás

      Everyone is connected, but no one is connecting

    • k
      k Anos atrás

      I accepted Jesus Christ as my lord and saviour a few months ago the empty space is gone .😊

    • Mario W
      Mario W Anos atrás +1

      Imagine why the poorest are the most happy people? Because they connect more with others.

    • A. Liguria
      A. Liguria Anos atrás +1

      @original2
      99% only if we start all over again...
      As of now instead, it seems like we all will end up in a matrix if technology keeps evolving.

  • Luigi Espinoza
    Luigi Espinoza Mês atrás +2

    This video popped up at the moment I needed it the most. Currently I haven’t been as lonely as I am today. My social circle reduced significantly (to the point which I only have one friend who I speak to every day although she’s mostly busy) and my long-time significant other left me months ago.
    This video was incredibly helpful for me because it helped me understand that I’m not exaggerating anything that I’m feeling. I don’t lack things to survive biologically at the moment, but that’s not enough for having a genuinely good life.
    Thank you for this.

  • Oh No Bro
    Oh No Bro 3 meses atrás +40

    “Because of this perceived hostile world, you could become more self centered to protect yourself, which could make you appear more cold, unfriendly, and socially awkward than you really are.”
    Ok, this line hit hard. Ima go cry now.

  • chickenandwaffles09
    chickenandwaffles09 3 meses atrás +1

    Very on point. Especially section 3. Now that I’ve turned 50 my feelings of loneliness has only increased so much it seems.

  • Héctor Ticoulat Bella
    Héctor Ticoulat Bella 23 dias atrás +2

    I just played Sea of Solitude, an amazing indie game that talks about loneliness in a unique way. If this video touched you, I think the game could help you overcome this even further.

  • Hexamael
    Hexamael Anos atrás +3946

    Loneliness: *More deadly than Cancer and Smoking*
    Me: Guess I'll die.

    • Hans Antonio
      Hans Antonio Mês atrás

      yupp we gonna die...
      just not today :)

    • yoiznez
      yoiznez 7 meses atrás

      ye🌀🌀🌀

    • Dena Cane
      Dena Cane 8 meses atrás +1

      @yo bonez Oh...

    • yo bonez
      yo bonez 8 meses atrás +1

      @Dena Cane oh well so im dead already

    • john thomas
      john thomas Anos atrás

      Me too

  • Aovierlia
    Aovierlia 2 meses atrás +2

    I literally cried during this video, I didn't reach the last resort when there is no one, but I feel that If I won't change, I will definitely become like that one day.

  • Mikaxo
    Mikaxo 2 meses atrás +9

    For me, the solution is to accept loneliness and do things that make me happy and that I can do alone.

  • Seth Harper
    Seth Harper Mês atrás +4

    The fact I relate to this so well is genuinely scary.

  • Aston
    Aston Mês atrás +2

    I've watched this video probably 5 times, but this time it really hit home. Great video with actionable tips

  • Generic Username
    Generic Username 3 anos atrás +27867

    Free virtual hugs for my lonely people.

  • manank patel
    manank patel Mês atrás +1

    Can relate to everything said in this video. Thank you

  • kys
    kys 3 meses atrás +1

    Everything in this video is super relatable, thank you for your advice

  • Cicero
    Cicero Mês atrás +62

    Whenever you feel lonely, always remember that you have an immune system defending you.

    • K.C The Dog Official
      K.C The Dog Official Mês atrás +3

      Hope everyone in the comment section get better

    • Cicero
      Cicero Mês atrás +1

      @Stress-induced psychosis I can understand that you are suffering from some type of autoimmune disease, but in most cases the immune system defends the body from intruders, even if you have an autoimmune disease, the immune system will still be able to fight off intruders. And take care out there, my friend!

    • Stress-induced psychosis
      Stress-induced psychosis Mês atrás +1

      Lol my immune system is destroying my thyroid gland so I have to take hormone replacement drugs for the remainder of my life.

    • Fabian Sosa
      Fabian Sosa Mês atrás +6

      @Siinful OMG Im so sorry dear l have diabetes type 2 😭😭😭😭💔💔💔 im afraid of developing type 1 its the worst and l cant even eat what l want anymore my sugar on blood was super high 😭😭😭😭 im depressed and super anxious all the damn time. Wish l could eat everything then die. 💔💔💔😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😣😣😣😣😣😭😭😭😭😭

    • Cicero
      Cicero Mês atrás +4

      @Siinful I'm really sorry that you have to deal with diabetes. I'm sure your health would get better anytime soon! Take care, out there my friend.

  • EllieXse
    EllieXse 2 meses atrás +5

    Personally I'm a loner at school but I've never felt better. Whenever I spent time with others around me I always felt excluded or tired, always worrying about whether I made mistakes while saying something, etc. I'm relieved from all that stress now. I also occasionally speak to my classmates and that feels like enough social interaction for me. Since I have a good coping mechanism I very rarely feel lonely, and only feel bored sometimes. So just as the video says, being alone doesnt mean youre lonely. And not being alone doesn't mean no loneliness. Great video.

  • zipper man
    zipper man 3 anos atrás +5140

    “If you feel lonely you are lonely”
    Quote of the year

    • Some Tag Guy
      Some Tag Guy 2 meses atrás

      Carbon life is based around Carbon.

    • SpinningCube
      SpinningCube 3 meses atrás +1

      I hope people are getting the point that being lonely ≠ being alone. That distinction really affects the meaning of this quote.

    • Zonrah
      Zonrah 2 anos atrás

      That line hitted me hard. Now i can now confirm....i am lonely...

    • Krizi
      Krizi 2 anos atrás

      @ImA 13 yrOlD pP LeSs FoRtNuT BOi
      r/beatmetoit

    • Mr. Soyhair
      Mr. Soyhair 2 anos atrás

      But you are not always depressed if you feel depressed

  • George Pilkington
    George Pilkington 3 meses atrás +6

    well this video has just pointed out everything in my life. didn't expect this to be targeted at me so much

  • Lily Wolf
    Lily Wolf 2 dias atrás

    The last time I had a good real friend where we didn’t hang out just as school, was about 3 years ago. She was a great friend but they’re were still a few things wrong. That friendship only lasted a year because I moved, and ever since, people from that town did not keep in contact with me. I like being around my family, but I don’t tell them problems like my mental health, a lot of the time, I can’t stand them and it’s sad. Through out my entire time in band, my mom always said I would find my people in there, it’s been 4 years. I’m doing ROTC now and not enjoying it. Hate the uniform, absolutely hate on of the people in my flight, and I just can’t relate with an of em. Im going to do robotics next year and hope for the best that I enjoy that class and that I made some good friends.
    I mean, I did make friends the last 3 years I was in this town, but tbh they were shitty.
    I’ve tried my best to be open with people, but anytime I say something personal about me like my mental health, family, etc. especially if it’s mental health shit, they are like “same!” And it’s so annoying. That automatically turns off the switch that I wanted to be friends with, they just showed me they can’t be serious. But a lot of the time, they don’t show an interest in being my friend.
    I think the best option for me is to be myself, is to be a good student and study, even if people say I’m a nerd. Be passionate in band and learning and not give a shit if people are looking or not. At some point, someone will notice and be interested in me. And maybe when I get comfortable with them, and I really wanna tell them more than anything in the world, I’ll be honest with them. I’ll tell them about my brother, what I do to my body and more.
    I’m just really sick of waiting, but I know if I just push myself into friend groups, that I won’t fit in with their vibe.
    I hope it’s soon :)

  • Red
    Red 3 meses atrás +3

    I feel like some of the worst parts of it are when you do try and reach out and whoever is there ignores you.

  • Locosalmando2247
    Locosalmando2247 Mês atrás +2

    Thanks to my mother, I have started every single of these loopholes without my control, and couldn't gain the control of my social life until It was too late and everyone assumed the worst of me! :)

  • Luke Ekhaml
    Luke Ekhaml 2 anos atrás +11598

    I'm at the point where I'm so lonely that I spend a majority of my days fantasizing about my ideal friendships and romantic partner.

    • N908QD
      N908QD 3 meses atrás

      I do this a lot. It’s the only of coping from the trauma of ppl abandoning me.

    • Blah blah
      Blah blah 3 meses atrás

      @rider bull 😆 just go find them. As if it was that easy. Spoken like someone who has no clue about reality

    • SoulsJeep
      SoulsJeep 4 meses atrás +1

      Oh my god! Hahaha I am the same way….. ☹️ damn that hit deep

    • Mardavion McCuiston
      Mardavion McCuiston 5 meses atrás +1

      Same 🥀

  • Andrei Makarov
    Andrei Makarov 2 meses atrás +19

    I try to reach out for somebody when I feel lonely but it only makes me even more convinced that it's the only me who needs that conversation.
    Like I always I am the one who has to initiate the communication first and If I don't do this then contact wouldn't happen at all, they wouldn't reach me on their own so it means they don't really need me in their life...

  • B Alraseta
    B Alraseta 27 dias atrás +1

    Never have i smiled because i understood something since I've learned numbers and letters feels that you know what's you living in now and can just be as enjoyable as a video game thank you guys literally you're the best keep it up and wish you be happy the most of your lifes

  • Just A Villager
    Just A Villager Mês atrás +1

    I have a serious question.
    I became interested in this kind of human behavior after watching this amazing video, and I feel I’d love to research this field, especially human behavior.
    What kind of major should I take in college? I'm a 11th grade high school student now. Will anyone give me some advice please?

  • KindlyHelpMeGetTo100KSubsWithNoVideos

    The worst feeling is when someone forgets you, you could never forget.

  • dudecool79
    dudecool79 2 anos atrás +7125

    The worst thing is going from feeling extremely lonely, to extremely fulfilled, then lonely again

  • shin rong lin
    shin rong lin 3 meses atrás +1

    I can’t believe how this video analyzed my situation and made me more understand what I am facing with my emotion and mind. thanks. It give a lot of help.

  • Salvador Prieto
    Salvador Prieto Mês atrás +50

    Sometimes it's better to be truly alone by yourself, than being alone in a group.

    • Moss Hive Network
      Moss Hive Network 29 dias atrás

      No. You can learn a lot from listening to others talk.

    • Mitch
      Mitch Mês atrás +1

      @Josh Rosengren 100%

    • Josh Rosengren
      Josh Rosengren Mês atrás +15

      I think being alone in a group is one of the most emotionally painful things a human can experience

    • DONT
      DONT Mês atrás

      WOWW YOU DON'T READ MY PROFILE PICTURE

  • Randleray
    Randleray 2 meses atrás +2

    I was there.
    I rejected calls and other contacts out of pure spite after two very dear friendships collapsed out of numerous very bad things falling together in one giant dirtball.
    I had a lot of interaction with friends after that for almost 3 years, but i felt lonely. After those 3 years it got better when I entered university and built up a new peer group and freindships... but those got stale when I developed feelings for one of said friends but could not express them. I stumbeled through university for about 5 years until covid. The last 2 years have been extremely taxing for my mental health not just because of the pandemical isolation, but because of a lot of almost unimaginable bad circumstances within my social life (which have no business in the internet). Lets just say I walked on my teeth until this spring when I finally got permitted for a semester abroad in Japan. And here I am now, forming a couple of very good relationships AND I also aquired a very vital skill I had sort of before, but never understood how to use it properly: I am very open and aggressive solving problems now within these new friendships. Meaning if there is oviously something wrong, I open my mouth and ask what is going on and what bothers freinds or myself.
    This skill is so extremely valuable, but I think most people simply ignore it, because a lot of people value their pride more than friendship. As the video makes the point, it is relatively easy to cut social interaction for work or study...

  • Welcome Dudes
    Welcome Dudes Mês atrás +4

    What do u guys think?
    3. How Loneliness Kills: On 5:15 when it talked about how we start to being hostile and more alert that was a 'wow' fact for me cuz this was happening to me and i was always cautious with extreme trust issues towards anybody and i was already lonely. Being a south asian on a lonely spectrum is pretty bad cuz we always pursue sucess than needs and one of those reasons im lonely and have poor social skills.

  • Amith Venkatesh
    Amith Venkatesh Anos atrás +2641

    "It's not a sign of weakness, but of courage" - best phrase ever

    • Andy Galifamackus
      Andy Galifamackus Anos atrás

      I love how Jordan Peterson puts this into perspective; “There would be no courage if there was no sort of fragility in the endeavor. That’s what makes it heroic when you triumph.”

    • original2
      original2 Anos atrás

      I advise on not fully depending on the therapy though. It may turn out to be fruitless, use other avenues of action too.

    • Perrie Hovden
      Perrie Hovden Anos atrás +1

      I def know this, i costed me my job.... but i brought me my music career, and it brough me the love of my life. Im fighting alot of stuff, and it's far from easy! If you are feeling anything like this, or depression, anxiety, or anything, it's not a weakness. Be proud of yourself of being where you are, because you could have given up years ago! I know that if i did, i wouldn't be where i am today. Be strong and know that alot of stuff is just in your head❤️ took me a long time to trust that. I love you, even tho i dont know you.

    • TheOrdinary
      TheOrdinary Anos atrás

      It's having the courage and strengths to be honest with yourself and recognize that you have a problem that leads to improved quality of life.
      Being ignorant and trying to distract yourself from it is one of the weakest things you can do.

    • Nina Bojorge
      Nina Bojorge Anos atrás

      Yes it is

  • zioncore
    zioncore 2 meses atrás +4

    One or two very important aspects are forgotten here! From my experience. First is disappointment in specific people you spent important quality time together & then they turn out to be liars and backstabbers. This leads to a at times generalized distrust into any new friendly relationship. The other big one is; not meeting people that you actually really like and sympathize with. Common problem in my life aswell. I am just so happy having a partner who can also be a good friend.

  • Katherine Kanaeva
    Katherine Kanaeva 3 meses atrás +2

    It's such a good video! Made me feel a little better, thank you, the authors did a great job with the preparation. I will check out the books you recommended

  • 𝑵𝒐𝒗𝒂 𝑹𝒆𝒃𝒊𝒓𝒕𝒉

    I have been avoiding this video for a long time now...until even asking answers from professional help did not answer my confusing thoughts about why and how i felt this way and why...I decided to give your video a chance...thank you, I now finally have my answers, and I now can ask help from them, and move on

  • NOT GUD...
    NOT GUD... Mês atrás

    Thanks to all the members of this channel for making this video. after watching this video i feel motivated....🥰

  • M o o n m o c h i x
    M o o n m o c h i x  2 anos atrás +4094

    *The worst loneliness isn't being alone, it's being alone surrounded by the people who don't care.*

    • Matheus A. Danzer
      Matheus A. Danzer 6 meses atrás

      @Gabriel F. Foi como o vídeo disse, você se fechou para relacionamentos por medo de se machucar

    • אביטל רווהAvital
      אביטל רווהAvital 6 meses atrás

      Its also being alone with no one to call to

    • Dave Crupel
      Dave Crupel 7 meses atrás +1

      That, and that alone, is why I don't live in a city, and refuse to.
      Being surrounded by people who don't care is probably the worst thing you can do.

    • Miguel Baltazar
      Miguel Baltazar 7 meses atrás

      how the fuck did you know about my life, stop tracking me

    • Xasia
      Xasia  11 meses atrás

      In my experience too it could be that were subconsciously not letting them know us, so we internalize them as only caring about us if we act not like ourselves. Idk if that resonates with anyone but not seeing myself as as much of a victim i think is really important for growth. If people indeed dont care thats their loss, but i feel like most of the human race is at least somewhat sympathetic

  • drigonKid k
    drigonKid k Mês atrás

    you guys are doing an awesome job it was a great help for a friend of mine who is going through a lot.

  • Subharup Chakraborty
    Subharup Chakraborty 3 meses atrás +11

    I used to feel miserable and ask myself..."Is there really noone for me?"....7 years later now, I am not lonely anymore...I have the best friend possible on this Earth...myself

  • Adnox
    Adnox 4 meses atrás +4

    I never realized how dangerous loneliness is. I should start doing something about it instead of using energy on grieving

  • CUAC
    CUAC 18 dias atrás +1

    You know you are lonely when something good happens in your life but you have no one to tell.

  • Gaby Milano
    Gaby Milano Mês atrás

    This video is what I needed rn cause I'm crying from loneliness every night but I want to get better, thanks to this video I'm motivated

  • Fi Fi
    Fi Fi 3 meses atrás

    Thank you for making this video.The professional advices really helps me a lot that people around me couldn’t do.

  • Kauê
    Kauê 4 meses atrás +7

    Eu sempre fui sozinho. Posso está cercado de pessoas, mas esse sentimento de tristeza e de que você é sozinho, não me deixa, eu sempre fui sozinho desde pequeno. Parece que a solidão me ajudou a eu me acostumar a viver sem depender de pessoas.

  • Fricky
    Fricky 2 meses atrás +24

    I've never felt this lonely in my life. After I dropped out of college, everything just seems bleak. I'm at home, doing nothing and don't know what to do next. I barely have any motivation to study or to find a job. I noticed that I badly needed a friend, a physical one by my side and not just someone that I can only talk online. I badly wanted someone accompany to me in this world. I badly needed companionship.

    • Hi^Ya^
      Hi^Ya^ Mês atrás +2

      Same Can relate you

    • White Doggo
      White Doggo Mês atrás +2

      Same feelings man. I hope youre doing well ❤️

  • Carson Owens
    Carson Owens Anos atrás +1157

    This video kind of made me realize that loneliness is part of the reason I overshare so much.
    I lack social interaction so much that when I finally get it I overshare like crazy and scare off new people.

    • Wowowoaoaoa Hwiwheueh
      Wowowoaoaoa Hwiwheueh Mês atrás

      @Nargish Sorot hey we can voice chat if you want 😊

    • Viraj Kadam
      Viraj Kadam 10 meses atrás

      Then let's bd friends, you have discord or something?

    • Jeevan Pranay
      Jeevan Pranay Anos atrás

      Same here. People swimming in the same bucket united in a relatable chat

    • Mario W
      Mario W Anos atrás

      Damn, I had a friend like that.. When he started speaking he spoke his life's story and quickly made it negative rant... Nothing fun to be around. I learnt that nobody is interested in your life's story, especially if you can't tell it in interesting way.

    • Jøßh
      Jøßh Anos atrás

      Same, and I gave you ur 1000th like

  • Elvis
    Elvis Mês atrás +1

    I saw this video for the first around a month ago and I’ve watched it around 10 times already I’m starting a new school year tomorrow so I came to watch it again to help me be more social so I can make new friends I don’t have a single close friend and it’s very depressing

  • tokyo prison
    tokyo prison 4 meses atrás +2

    I never thought I'm ever gonna feel this 6:27 situation. I thought every antisocial people out there really just hate other people, until I experience it myself :(

  • Joseph Weiland
    Joseph Weiland 4 meses atrás +2

    Was managing well enough. Had become accustomed to being alone or doing things myself - yet I still had friends to keep from feeling too lonely. Following the pandemic and quarantines, it's starting to feel more chronic

  • Kayla Pearl CP Ninja
    Kayla Pearl CP Ninja Mês atrás +4

    I enjoy my alone time as an introvert, but I struggle with loneliness. And on top of that I have ADHD, anxiety and depression, alongside cerebral palsy. And it sucks because I’ve been dealing with social isolation and loneliness ever since I was a kid.

    • Tom 441
      Tom 441 Mês atrás

      Hey I couldn’t find you on Instagram

  • Reki Jorve
    Reki Jorve 3 anos atrás +6466

    I've been lonely for so long that it feels normal.

    • fred norris
      fred norris Mês atrás

      same

    • Kimo
      Kimo Mês atrás

      @Sir.Randolph444 why

    • Petch
      Petch Mês atrás +1

      Because it is.

    • Lasajnaé
      Lasajnaé Mês atrás

      Your loneliness is self-sustaining now

    • Mr.Breast
      Mr.Breast Mês atrás

      Cry about it?

  • Smokey
    Smokey Mês atrás

    0:30 This is exactly why we feel lonely. I been tryna say this for years now, our brain understands social media but it also knows it's a fake connection. If I send a message to a friend, even if we both lonely, that message is still send by a lonely person, to a lonely person. The only way the connection can fix that if it's in real life. Social media breaks your social life because it's faking the social contacts we ACTUALLY need

  • aliBaba
    aliBaba 24 dias atrás +7

    This video literally saved my life back then when i was bullied. I found it again through coincidence and this sentence „its ok to be lonely“ helped me alot. I remember crying while watching it bc i related to it. Now im crying bc im happy how things finally changed.

  • Gaëtan JP
    Gaëtan JP Mês atrás

    This hits, right in the feels. But somehow, it felt necessary.
    Thank you

  • LOCCUTASofDANK
    LOCCUTASofDANK Mês atrás

    I remember watching and scoffing at this 2 years ago. Yet now I cannot help but acknowledge the amount of Truth that is being said.